Discontent opens us to many unhealthy and unhelpful habits in our lives. Our culture encourages discontent through marketing/adverising, competition, education systems, hierarchy etc. Advertisers foster this sense of dissatisfaction and discontent, promising greater satisfaction with whatever it is they are marketing.
Discontent creates a feeling of insufficiency and emptiness within us that needs satisfying and filling up. Wanting more, more, more, better, different; we look to ‘stuff’ to fill us up. Over consuming resources is a result.
But it’s not the conditions of our lives that make us unhappy and discontent, but our choice of thoughts about it, our attitude and behaviors. When we are discontented and unhappy, we are focused on all that isn’t right, all that is missing, all that needs to be Better for us to experience contentment and happiness. We are predominantly focused on the seeming lacks and things that aren’t good enough or right enough in ourselves and our lives.
Gratitude is the path to contentment.
Gratitude is an Attitude. An attitude of gratitude is the best attitude to have. It has little to do with circumstances.
Gratitude is the feeling and expression of thankfulness. While being grateful, our attention is on what we already have and helps us appreciate them more. It reminds us of all the good things already in our lives, no matter how small they may at first appear. And at the same time our attention is away from the idea of things not being good enough, right enough, just not enough! or missing in ourselves and our lives.
Gratitude Turns What we Have into Enough.
Gratitude has the power to turn a negative into a positive, a problem into an opportunity, or a lack into an asset. By finding a way to be thankful for our troubles, they can become our blessings. We are reminded that every cloud has a silver lining. And that the sun never stops shining, it just hides behind the clouds for a while, so we can appreciate it even more when the cloud has moved on.
There is always something to be grateful for, even if it is only the fact that there is air to breathe. Gratitude reminds us what’s important. The simple act of saying “thank you” can help create happiness and contentment in the giver and the receiver.
Gratitude costs little and gives much. Think of all the things, experiences and people you’re thankful for, and thank them silently. The more you practice this, the more you will find to be grateful for. Practice telling yourself positive, empowering things about what you are doing and who you are. The change in how you feel and your life will amaze you!
If you find yourself unhappy and discontented with someone or something, Stop, take a slow deep breath or three, gently turn the corners of your mouth up, soften your gaze and relax. Just Breathe and Smile for awhile. When you take the time to breathe, and smile, it can change how you feel and your outlook on life. Try it and feel the difference.
Grateful People are Happier, more Content People.
Grateful people consistently report increased feelings of well-being, better health, naturally healthier lifestyles, increased optimism, and a more positive outlook on life.
And that being the case, maybe Gratitude is the only thing we really need more of.